The New Anonymous Advice Column

The Emancipated Queen has decided to change the face of this blog.  Instead of a one sided conversation, I am now turning this page into an anonymous advice column.  I think it's important to share ideas and to see other's points of view. Plus, there are so many women facing every day dilemmas and sound advice is priceless.

If you have a question, you can email emancipatedqueen@gmail.com and your question (along with the response) will be listed.  I will only list your initials . . . no one needs to know ALL of your business. 

Look forward to hearing from you!

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What Is Holding You?

I know it's been a week since I've added a new message and I apologize.  I won't stay away that long again.  I have been working on my mind . . . thinking about my steps and how to get to the next level.  I thought about my dreams, and how I need the confidence to carry those things out.

I don't know about you, but I am tired of being limited.  I am tired of having excuses and failing to meet my goals.  I am tired of going in circles, wasting time reflecting on what I 'should have' or 'could have' done.  It's time to move forward.

I am challenging myself, as well as you, to get busy LIVING.  If there are things that you have not done that you need to, there is no better time than today to get moving.  We can do this!

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For The Love . . .

I have been dragged through the dirt for love . . . I have done things and given my heart only to be hurt in the end.  But the saddest part is, I have done it more than once.  So what is the problem with me?  Why did dysfunctional love SEEM so normal?

Most relationships that I see these days are severely unbalanced. I think this is because most of us were not taught the proper way to love. . . we didn't witness loving relationships.

I don't want our youth to make the same love mistakes that we have. We need to teach them to love and respect themselves so that the next generation won't be so "Love Dumb".

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No Dark Meat

I was watching a television program where black women were being interviewed, and the women stated that although they were black, they would NEVER date a black man.  They said that they believed that black men were no good and that white men would treat them better.

Now, I believe that if you find love in any race or color, you should go for it and not be prejudiced.  HOWEVER, it seemed like a bit of self-hate for women to say that ALL black men were bad.  I wonder what makes our people believe that other races are superior when it comes to dating?  It is okay for them to prefer white men, but to categorize their brothers seems a bit extreme.  What are your thoughts?

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My Lesson

I would consider myself to be one of the most positive people anyone would meet.  However, I have my moments.  Last week I found myself in my own Pity Party and for some reason, it felt good to feel sorry for myself. 

I realized that faking happiness did not work any better than wallowing in self-pity.  I just had to accept that it's okay to feel sad . . .it's a human emotion.  But after that feeling comes I have to process it, then pull myself together. 

There is no situation that is permanent.  As long as I have life, I have an opportunity to change any situation.  I"m not perfect, but I'm getting there . . .

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Kindle Promotion

Through the month of March ALL of my novels and books of poetry are $1.00 on Amazon Kindle, as a "THANK YOU" to all who have supported Buttrfli Jones.

If you don't have a Kindle, you can download the Amazon Kindle app for free on any Smartphone our Android phone. Please feel free to repost.

Thank you and God bless!

Daddy's Girls

Yesterday I had a meeting with 15 girls aged 12 - 14.  Our  question for the day was how many of them live in homes with just one parent.  All 15 young women raised their hands . . . then one put her hand down suddenly.  She said, "Well I have been living with my Mom, but my Dad gets out of prison in a few weeks so I will have them both in the house."

SAD

The young ladies talked about how their father's were missing . . . some who have never seen their father.  They were full of emotion and anger and to be honest I can't blame them.  Some girls felt as if their father's absence was their fault. 

I know that there are men in the world who raise their children and support them, both mentally and physically, but for those of you who have not been doing that. . . start today.  The rejected girls of today are tomorrow's broken women, looking for that "Daddy" in the wrong type of men, suffering from low self esteem or even suffering from substance abuse.

You owe it to your daughters to be there.

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Getting Back Up

My name is Buttrfli Jones, and I have a confession to make:

I AM NOT PERFECT

I will not always do everything the way that people expect me to.  I will not always say the right thing.  I will not live up to societal standards.  I will fall occasionally. 

But one thing that is important to know about me is that I will always get back up, regardless of how many times I fall.  I see people who have given up on life . . . resigning themselves to accept whatever happens in life as their fate.  They live unhappy, unfulfilled lives and accept their daily existence as their lot.  I was once a person who was afraid to get back up, thinking that it was easier to just stay defeated.

I had to tell myself, just as I am telling you, to not accept defeat as definite.  Remember, if babies stayed down every time they fell, they would never learn how to walk.   If they never learned to walk, they would never learn how to run.  We can never reach our full potential until we get back up when we fail/fall.

One day we will all run . . .

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